Incredible Women – My role model.

Incredible Women – My role model.
My role model is a very common, middle class girl. What makes her different is her tremendous control on her mind and emotions. Her good presence of mind and power to think even during life taking situations has flattered me. One of my friend’s dad is a Commissioner of police. He told me this story of a ‘Brave girl’. I thought of sharing with all women, who are incredible in their own way and need to discover that incredibility within them.
It so happened that – A girl named Kanchan (name changed) was waiting on the bus stop when 5 devils came to her and offered her a lift. When she denied, they forced her into the car. In her own words… When I was forced in, I yelled out for help. But many people just ignored my cry for helped and I was pushed in. When they closed the door at my back, I realized that, I cannot fight these five psycho guys who were in lust for women’s body. I thought to myself, I do not have strength to fight these five beasts and if I pleaded, they will get wilder to pounce on me. That was the time when I thought to try some other way and summit myself to their lust. When one of the guy kissed me on my lips, I too kissed him back. He was shocked to receive a kiss from me when he was expecting some protest. I could read that clearly and told myself ‘This is the only way out’. Seeing him scared I asked him, “What happened? Look like this is your first time. Don’t worry! I will teach you how to do this”. With that I actually started unzipping my top. That made them more scared and worried. I knew right then, that my trick is working. I went on to continue saying, “I will teach you everything you want to know. And for that you need to pay me Rs. 15000/- each. And do not try to mess with me, as, by now my men might have noted down your car number.” She said, “She could clearly see all those five guys were scared, exchanging looks within themselves”. They looked at each other and suddenly the guy in the driver seat took U-turn and dropped me safely at the bus stop.
[NOTE: I have exactly told the story in the same exact words, un-edited, just the way Kanchan told us]
After this incident, Kanchan went to police station and told my friend’s dad the whole story. She said, “I do not want to register any complaint against anyone as nothing has happened as such. I just thought to bring this to your notice”. When my friend’s dad told me about this, I could not stop myself from meeting her. Pleading him many times, he took me and my friend to meet Kanchan. Hearing the story, I had made some image of Kanchan. . I imagined her to be bold, with hard looks, strength, sharp etc. All that fit to my imagination of ‘Brave women’. I was shocked to see her altogether different avatar. She was just like any other Mumbai girl. Wearing pajamas and T-shirt, hair tied up neatly, soft-spoken, jolly. I once again heard the story from her. That was the time when I noticed the incredible spark in her eyes, making her different from all of us. I hugged her tightly before taking her leave. Today I am still in tough with her via mails. My role model!
I always believe, God give us 1 second to think before any action to happen. That 1 second is quite enough to think and to take action accordingly.

If i were a diety

Remember those days in school when we used to write essays like – “If I were a -‘President’, ‘god’, ‘creator of earth’, ‘book’, ‘100 Rupee note’, ‘old wall clock’ etc. Whatever you turn into – your life always starts with 'My master found me when he was a child. He used to love me, papmer me etc.bla bla bla... and at the end -Today I am old and miserable, wanting to die in some pit'.

Anyways, in case you haven’t notice, world is not a perfect place to leave in. There’s corruption, pollution, hunger, war and of course Gandhi family.

I am still wondering about the things I would love to change ‘If I were a deity’. Here is my list:

* new Indian rupee notes without Gandhi’s photo on it

* political speeches would be delivered by the people who write them
* Sonia Gandhi returning back to Italy - a real freedom to India
* all politicians in India and around the world turn into Pinocchio
* all Indian people gives vote to right candidate
* US stop poking nose in other countries affair
* highways, trains and jobs would grow at the same rate as the population of India
* traffic lights change when you honk at them
* lawyers would speak a language that humans also understand
* boot would rhyme with foot
* f**** would rhyme with Oh fish
* sick days would include when you're sick of work.
* when team loses the cricket match, spectators would get their money back
*drivers are polite.
* men understand what women want and when
* dogs find a shelter while having sex
*all street dogs are couriered to Menaka Gandhi’s residence
* children movies does not have kissing / sex scenes
* K- serial would have an official end
* Deepika Padukone finds a steady boyfriend
* Salman Khan gets married
* Bobby darling understand who she/he really is
* Rakhi Sawant……………. Nothing ……. (she just needs to be re-born as human)
* news channels actually delivers NEWS
* dull and pessimistic people just vanish
* someone publish a book called ‘mothers dialogue’ which are common across the globe

But again world is not perfect either. We have floods and droughts, tsunami and typhoons, earthquakes and volcanoes etc. making people wonder about the deity existence who can change this.

ABC Adjectives for my niece – Ahana

A for “Attractive”, that's what you are,
B for “Beautiful”, creation of art.
C for “Cute”, that's what you are,
D for “Darling”, who rule our heart.

E for “Energetic”, that's what you are,
F for “Friendly”, natural power to make everything alive
G for “Great”, that's what you are,
H for “Happiness”, that you bought in all's life.

I for “Intelligent”, take the decision right.
J for “Joyous”, make others smile
K for “Kind”, make others delight,
L for “Lavishing”, have a amazing style.

M for “Mischievous”, looks on your face,
N for “Naughty”, playing some prank
O for “Obedient”, with eyes that you face,
P for “Passionate”, for Himalaya trek

Q for “Queen”, of everyone's heart
R for “Ravishing”, that's what you are
S for “Stunning”, you are so smart,
T for “Tolerant”, that's what you are.

U for “Understanding”, that's what you are
V for “Valuable”, gift that you are
W for “Wonderful”, person that you are
X for “X-mas”, gifts that you adore

Y for “Yes”, this means yuppy
Z for “Zest”, this means hurray.
A-Z you have learned it all
You are so quick, to learn it all so fast!

- Sharvani / Amala Mavshi
15 February 2011

To my Angel, to my niece – Ahana

My little angel, how much you have grown
Nine months of awaiting, and now nine months old.
From tender little bud, to a blooming flower
You have made us all so proud, so mature

When you were born, several people too were born,
A Mother, A Father
A Grandmother and Grandfather
Cousins & Aunts
All the creators were re-created by the new creation.

Softly and tenderly you conquered the hearts
Took all the attention, and are center for all.
People cuddle you and you cuddle them back
They kiss you and you kiss them back.

You are the lucky champ, to receive blessings from all
You are god's miracle, whom he has blessed with all.
Talking and crawling, you have learned a lot
We all are here, to guide you and to show the right path.

My little angel, My niece 'Ahana'
Today you are my Valentine, to shower my love on.
I bless you with unconditional love and affection…
Smile on your lips,
Knowledge on your face,
Politeness in your gesture,
Softness in your words.

All I wish is 'All the BEST in the world'.

- Sharvani / Amala Mavshi
14 February 2011.

Japanese Language – 'A height of politeness'...

'East' has always excited me for their own uniqueness. Before learning 'Japanese Language' I started searching about Japan & its culture on Google. I always try to find out some kind of similarities between Indian culture and Asian culture. In some or the other way we are always related. Many of our words too have their Sanskrit base. Like for eg. In Malay, Queen is called as 'Raja', Grandmother is called 'Nene'. Sri-Lanka have roots of Sanskrit and Tamil languages. In Indonesia you will see a Chemist name as, 'Nakul Chemist' or Bank name as 'Dirghayu Bank' which have base in Sanskrit. Indonesia indicate women by 'Devi' and have names like 'Arti devi', 'Chandrika devi' etc. They even believe in Indian saga like 'Mahabharat and Ramayan'. And many believe that Lord Ram was born in Indonesia and then went in India. Medan , which is a big city in Indonesia, actually came from Indian Hindu language word "Maidan" meaning "ground" or "land". Similarly, we find some common roots in every Asian countries.

Japan in particular are influenced by Indian and China. King Ashoka's daughter married Japanese king and with her took lots of Indian tradition. Festivals like, 'Pongal(Tamil Nadu)', 'Chaitragaur (Maharashtra)', 'Pitrupandravda (Remembering own Ancestor) ', 'Shastrapuja (weapons – puja) etc are few of the festivals that are celebrated in Japan too. Whereas 'Tea' was introduced to Japan by China traders. Japan accepted it and included it in their own polite way leading to formation of 'Tea ceremony'. The written script too was taken from China.

If you are listening to Japanese language, its sounds like the mixture of all impolite / bad words. To give an eg. 'Tsuitachi', 'Futsuka', 'Mikka', 'Yokka', 'Itsuka', 'Muika', 'Nanoka', 'Youka', 'Kokonoka' and 'Touka' are the names of 1 to 10 dates. Now seriously tell me, don't they sound like some of the bad words? I still remember one incidence related to this. I was traveling back home from my Japanese class. We took 'ladies special' train at CST. Ladies special train can by compared to the place wherein all radio stations are played at a time. College girls laughter, office ladies celebrating festivals and chitchatting, sales person making his way out and ladies standing at the door even thought they wanted to get down at the last stop. All this was making me restless. To add to my restlessness, one lady had a bad fight with the lady standing at the door. Using all bad words starting from 'Ba' and 'Bha' they started with a fight. It was getting on my nerve. I then started saying all those Japanese dates in similar tone like those bad words. All the ladies started looking at me, and unable to understand the meaning of any word, thought I was someone with a PhD for bad words. I got so much respect that day in the train, that one lady offered me a seat... Flattered!!!

But Japanese language is 'The politest' language in the world no matter how harsh it sounds. One can get an idea by counting the number of times a Japanese person bows to great you. They can just go on bowing. Even bowing has different types. Just bowing your head implies an informal way of greeting, Ok for your friend but No-Gu (not good) to show respect. While walking, one can just bend a little. Actual, respectful bowing is one wherein you need to bend 90 degree from your waist. That's the reason you won't find any Japanese with a big tummy. I think, looking at Indian police growing tummy, they should be also made to bow like Japanese. (It's different that the reason for such big fat stomach of Indian police is due to money they collect from under the table. Huge the amount, bigger is the tummy size). Anyways, back to Japanese bowing. If you are sitting on a 'Tatami' (mat) one still need to bow a little. In short, one need to keep bowing no matter how and where you are. Our Marathi say, “'मोडेन पण वाकणार नाही' ” meaning: “Will break but not bend” cannot be even translated in Japanese. They wont understand the meaning of it being brave.

Now moving on to the language: Politeness also has many ways and differs from person to person and from designation to designation.
Let me elaborate it with an eg;. ジョンさんがさとさんを待つ。[John waits for Sato (his friend)]

But if Teacher is waiting for any student, then – 先生がお待ちになる。Here teacher is of high authority and thus she has done a favor on us by waiting.

Student is waiting for a teacher, then – 先生をお待ちする。Even thought we are waiting for teacher, teacher being of higher authority, it's shows our pleasure to wait for teacher.

The height of politeness does not end here. Just imagine one situation wherein you need to go home early one day from office and need to ask permission from your boss. In English, “Would it be fine for me to leave early today” or “Can I leave early today, please” is considered as polite. But in Japanese one need to say, 「ちょっと早く行かせていただけませんか」。which literally mean: “May I get you to let me go early”. Make sure that while talking to you boss, one need to bend down, so that you are way below your boss height and keeping your eyes as low as possible and without making any eye contact with high authority one should communicate. They might have adopted the American standard of leaving. But it's just limited to dressing, marriage, marriage constitute, leave-in-relationship etc. They have not adopted American rudeness or over friendliness into Japanese culture. The hierarchy system is followed in Japan even today.

「お元気ですか」。(O-Genki Desuka): They not only show respect to person, but to words too. If they want to emphasis any particular word then the use 'O' or 'Go' before that word to show respect. Here 'Genki' means 'health' but to show respect or to emphases it they include 'O'. Answer to this also differ according to one's post / designation. (Here its not only related to office designation or post... but also personal life post is taken into consideration). If the person you are asking is of height authority he/she can just reply by saying 「はい、元気です」。(Yes! I am fine). But if you are answering to higher authority then one should say, 「おかげさまで元気です」。(Because of your favor, I am fine).

San: San means Mr. Miss. Mrs. everything. But one should not use it for oneself. It's for others to indicate with respect. But if a Japanese person is traveling outside his country, he/she indicated himself by 'San' showing respect of being a Japanese.

Yesterday, my friend 'Kranti' was on a customer call as interpreter. She greeted the Japanese on the other side with, 「お世話になっております」。meaning “I am here to help you”. So much unlike our any Indian language. Just imagine the same situation taking place in Mumbai or Delhi. The Indian person might have said, “Oh Fish! (Indian version of F***) I don't believe you don't understand simple English. OK yaar, tell me what you want to convey. I will help you no”.

School days! those were the days!!!

We hear people saying, 'School days were the best days', or 'Those were the days'. But such facility was not privileged to me by my horoscope structure. For me it was a terror to go to school everyday. All those subjects like History, Algebra and teachers were my enemies. Many reasons can be given...

1.My elder sis name is Amita, and believe me, in my whole secondary school term, all my teachers used to call me Amita. I used to hate having an identity crises as if I never exist for them.
2.My sis, studious and quite never actually was one of the teachers favorite but when she scored 90% in SSC board (in those days scoring 90% was tough, teachers never used to distribute marks like they do today) suddenly my teachers started comparing me with her saying, 'Amita, look at your elder sister, she made us all so proud and look at you'. Once irritated, I stood up and told my teacher, 'Amita does not have any elder sister, I have elder sister named Amita'. As usual, was made to kneel down outside the class making me 'outstanding student' for others to notice.
3.'Only study/work, no play makes John a good human being', was the equation of my school teachers those days. They never used to treat children with extra curricular activities with respect. Not only that, an Oscar winner choreographer, doing poor in exams, was never asked to do the choreography of dance and instead give that job to one of the TOP 3 ranker. Bull Shit!
4.History: I used to love history till we had lessons on Shivaji Maharaj and Maratha's. It was in primary school till 4th standard. After that Gandhi entered and then entered world war I-II. I still don't remember the exact date when Gandhi did Salt Satyagraha or dandi march. I still am unaware of the day and date when Nazi was defeated. And I still wonder why I/we were forced to put events according to chronological order. Just saying it all happened in PAST was not enough? On one hand teachers teach us to look forward and not dig the past. Then why the hell we are making Gandhi do that Satyagraha year after year. Moreover once when teacher asked me, who gave us the freedom? I said, 'Hitler gave us the freedom'. If world war II would have never happened, British would have never surrendered against the Gandhi's non-violence are my views even today. Do I need to tell you what happened next and how much I scored in it?
5.Maths: Maths and me never walk hand-in-hand. We always prefer to walk parallel and never meet. 'A water is dripping from a water drum with some xyz speed and that drum is filled with some ABC liter of water. How much time will it take for a drum to be empty?' Don't you think we are spoiling the mentality of children. In my one of the semester exam, I wrote my assumption: I will first fix the hole and stop it from dropping any more water and wasting it. My teacher was not happy with my mechanical ability and gave me mathematical 0 (zero). Geometry was something I used to like. But Algebra was just not my cup of tea. I am still searching the correct value of 'Mr.X'.
6.Biology: I just used to love this subject. Not because of the detection we made of our body parts and different animals, but because of drawing part of it. In one exam, it so happened that, I was so much engrossed in getting my frog look real that I completely forgot that I even have to write the theoretical part of it, explaining my drawing. I got V.good for my frog drawing and some 2 in theory. My question here again is, cant teacher just see that, I have named all the body parts of that frog in my pictures correctly. Do I still need to write thesis on it. Aren't pictures talkative?
7.I remember after doing majors in Economics, I met one of teacher from school. After retirement too, she had maintained that typical khadus teachers look on her face. With utter rudeness, she asked me, 'So, did you finished your college?' I was so flattered to listen those words of insult after such a long time. I told her I did my majors in Economics. I still remember the surprised look on her face.
8.For one of my psychology project, I needed to interview few of the school students as my subject. After many years I once again entered that bldg to look out for some help. Principle of that school choose one class for me and told me that Mrs. Rai (named changed) is the class teacher and she being your class teacher for 3 years you will feel comfortable. I entered the class and explained my project to Mrs. Rai. She asked me to continue with my process. I started selecting random subjects from the class of 50+. I wanted to interview everyone from different IQ level, different background etc. After my selection was done, Mrs. Rai asked one kid, a back bencher, if he is comfortable solving the papers and if not pass that question sheet to some Xyz student (the brilliant one ofcourse). Poor boy must have felt so insulted. I remember myself standing in same position some few years back with same helplessness, same insult. Then Mrs. Rai turned to me and said, 'let me select subject for you' and she started 'Ok! Who stood 1st in class, 2nd , 3rd etc.' Nothing was changed in so many years. Without wasting time, I stopped teacher by insulting any more subjects I selected. Turning to that boy, I told him that even I was in same place as he is today, when I was in this school. I too have digested many such insults. And once out from this school, you will turn to be a wonderful person.
This list is unending. All I wanted to convey was that, my school was not that best to be proud off (scholar student will object to it though) but still I loved those days of punishment. Those were the days!

Family Planning & Kindergarten Admission

Wife in romantic mood: Honey! Don't you think we should start a family now and add a new member to our family?

Husband kissing her in return: I sure do baby. Tomorrow first thing I will do is to check with the 'Kindergarten availability' for our child for the year 2013, and then we can go ahead with our plan, baby.

Tring Tring: (

Receptionist: Hello, ‘ST. Blossom Kindergarten and Nursery school’

Husband: Hello, I am Mr. John. Me and my wife are thinking of having a baby and so I wanna check the availability of seats for our 'Baby-to-be' in the year 2013.

Receptionist: Oh no Sir, The admission for the year 2013 is already full. For 2013 batch, you should have taken your 'baby-to-be' admission in the year 2009 itself sir.

Husband: What the hell! I was not even married then.

Receptionist: Sir, if someone is planning to have a baby 2years after marriage, they should apply for their child's admission even before they say, "I Do".

Anyways Sir, All I can do is, we are soon going to start admission for the year 2015 and I can give you the reminder call once we start with the process, so that you can do your family planning accordingly. Will that be fine sir. Hello.. Hello.. Sir are you on the line?

Husband: Oh Yes, I am very much on the line. Just was lost in my thoughts. I will be delighted if you give me reminder call. Thank you.

Looking at India's daily increasing population, this situation is not that far. My aunt, who along with her husband runs a well-known school here in Pune, visited us few months back. My sis asked her about the admission process for Ahana, who soon gonna turn 9 Months (Old enough to start 'Abhyas' with daily A,B,C and 'Hickory Dickory dock' and 'A for Attractive - B for Beautiful - C for cute' songs). My aunt informed us that we need to take admission for kindergarten, play group or nursery one year in advance.

Wow! In short, next year when Ahana turns 1, we will register her for play group, even before she is done with her potty training.

If this situation continues, the children who will be born in the year 2020, their parents will need to secure admission for their grandchildren too. Shit! Just Imagine...

Year 2017: I am Mr. John, getting married in the year 2018 and wanna secure kindergarten admission for my daughter for the year 2022 and for my grandchildren in 2049. The daughter has to do only one thing, produce baby in the 'Right year, right day and right time'.

Soon Matrimony site will also provide this facility. Bharat Matrimony or Shaadi (dot) com or any other matrimony site for that matter, providing a facility saying, "choose your dream partner with our help and we will secure a seat for your 'child-to-be' in kindergarten.

Tribute to Mangesh Deshpande

Mangesh Deshpande:

Many close to Mangesh can write many things on Mangesh as a person and as a trekker. I thought of sharing few of my experience with him, as, somewhere I give credit to Mangesh for all the treks I had done till date. As I always say, “Looking into the mirror, I stand 5’ feet tall, thin. I never thought I will be doing trekking or for that matter rock climbing and other adventures I had done till date. It was just because of Mangesh who encouraged me to do all impossible.”

It’s been one year since that accident took Mangesh and Sada's life. I still remember Parag Thorat calling me on Wednesday morning on 21th October 2009 to give me the shocking news that Mangesh and Sada got killed while descending down the wall after summit - one of his many Himalaya Expeditions on 19th October 2010. Disbelief – Anger – Shocked – Protest - Tears went through all but yet to accept it as Harsh Truth. Those who know Mangesh will agree that he has got tremendous stamina & strength to survive in extreme conditions and so somewhere in my heart, I believe he is still alive. Atleast he is 100% alive in all trekkers heart. Those in Chakram Hikers and everyone in trekking / adventure world know Mangesh as one of the best trekker in India. The fit person I know. For many he is like the ‘Father figure’ in trekking. He has encouraged many to start trekking and reach the height they have achieved today. How can I be different?

Mangesh has inspired me to do all impossible. It was Mangesh who believed in me and took me to ‘khechi treks’. I am here sharing few of my memories with Mangesh.

My first encounter with Mangesh: A tall, dark and bald person. Fit looking with expressive eyes. Listening to everyone and talking little, cracking jokes @ places. In bus, took the first seat, not singing and doing awaligiri like us. When forced to sing, sang some nursery rhymes from his daughter Rama’s book and A,B,C in reversed way. In my first encounter with Mangesh some 12years back, I tend to look at his old black-n-white photo taken some 10yrs ago. In photo, he was a college going young guy having lots of hair. With good humour he said, “Don’t go with my today’s bald look. And this photo is not that old, it’s taken just 2 years ago, when I was of your age”.

Ulhas Valley: There was something different in Mangesh. With him, one used to feel a positive energy. Knowing, unknowingly he used to spread tremendous positive vibes in the trekking group. One incident of ‘Ulhas valley’ would like to share. Ulhas valley is one of my favourite trek spot. ‘A’ grade trek, only for experienced trekkers. It was my 2^nd Ulhas valley trek with Mangesh. After climbing down the valley, stands a huge waterfall, with tremendous force. I remember Mangya standing inside that very waterfall. Even the drizzle of it used to cause lot of pain. I wanted to try it once, not the same waterfall but some 10% less forceful waterfall. I told Mangya my desire and he quickly said, “Chal ki mag!” (Come let’s go). Holding his hand tightly I went inside, just to realize that it’s just out of my capacity to withhold it for too long. I asked Mangesh to pull me out. This did not fell on his deaf ears. I thought due to crushing noise he was unable to hear my words. So I yelled. Yelled, yelled and yelled. But Mangesh was holding me tight. Unable to move, unable to breathe properly, I thought I was finished. Finally when I had no energy left to yell, Mangesh pulled me out. After taking deep breath I yelled at him, “Mangya are yaar, me mele aste” (I would have died). He said, “Till the time you had energy to yell, you had energy to stand inside that waterfall. When you stopped yelling I pulled you out”. He was awali in his own way. Next generation will miss a leader like him.

BhimaShankar Shidi Ghat: Again a challenging trek. After 2^nd shidi (ladder) there is a traverse (a rock patch wherein one need to go from one end to another, other end not visible. Below is the huge valley). Mangesh took the lead, helping everyone to cross the traverse. One need to hold a small ditch / pit naturally created in the rocks with hands and then there is a small ditch for your feet, so that holding the pit firmly with your hands one can walk / pull oneself by taking support of the ditch where one can place your feet (rather a small ditch to place your toe fingers). With my height, after holding a ditch with my hands, I was not able to reach till the ditch to stand even after stretching myself to fullest. I told this to Mangesh. He asked me to grab the ditch only with my hands and asked me to swing and pull myself over. Not forgetting to tell me not to look down the valley even once. I did it, just because Mangesh asked me too and because I too had tremendous faith in him. I did it successfully just to realise that my height is too short to land my foot at the end of traverse. I was hanging there, at some 2500ft. Not looking down. Just hanging. I tried hard to pull over, but was scared to lose my grip. Mangesh once again came to my rescue. He took the support of the tree and leaned towards me. With just one hand he lifted me like a doll and there I was standing near Mangesh looking at the 2500 ft valley with success. With joy I yelled, “Mangesh, I don’t believe, I did it”. He looked at me n said, “Mag!” After that I did BhimaShankar Shidi Ghat one more time, but made sure Mangesh is gonna come along. I seriously don’t think, I trust any other firm hand in those ghats. Somewhere inside I know without Mangesh I won’t be doing Shidi ghat again.

Rock climbing: My impossible dream. I just stared going to Mumbra for rock climbing practice every Sunday morning. Once Mangesh was in Mumbai on Sunday morning and so he joined us to Mumbra rock climbing practice. It was rear after he shifted to Pune. I was trying to climb a huge rock. For me it was one of the difficult climbing techniques. After trying it for some 10 times with Vilas helping me in between, I was able to climb it all by myself. Once down, I told Mangesh that due to short height I got limitations in climbing. I can’t take grip which are beyond my height. Mangesh, pulling my leg and with naughty smile said, “amhi pan amcha height cha evadhyach grip ghetto” (we also too take grip which are in our capacity). He then gave the biggest certificate to me by saying, “Tu height ni short ahes mhanun jasta technique use karun, technically climbing karte. Jyanchi height jasta aste amcha sarkhi te height cha wapar karun climbing kartat rather than technique. Tu climbing kartana, khalun bhagaila chan vatta karan chooti chooti pawala gheun tu efficiently climb kartes, whereas sometime amhi climb kartana haat-pai marlya sarkhe vattat”. (Being short in height, you do rock climbing using all climbing techniques. Whereas sometime we just use our height to take the grip instead of technique. Your climbing look more professional and look good while watching you doing climbing.) His words I remember as it is. It was like the biggest certificate for me.

Dhene-Ratan: Mangesh being father figure to many was not all that perfect. He too like other human being had some flaws. Mangesh liked challenging himself. If he had climbed any mountain in say 8hrs, next time he will try to climb it in 5hrs. I still remember Dhene-Ratan trek. Refusing few other girls he took me for the trek, which itself was a big thing for me. We all started with myself (Sharvani Khare), Mangesh Deshpande, Anju Paniculam, MB (Mahesh Bhalerao), Ameya Gokhale, Sudeep Barve, Aniket Chaudhari, Rupali Bhagwat, Ashwinikumar, Annie and Jyotsna Kanekar. For Mangesh, Aniket and Sudeep it was a load ferry trek (Packing bag with heavy load for the trek). It was their practice trek before Himalaya Expedition. It was a stretched trek, what we call it as kechi trek. Annie and Jyotsna got stressed out and decided to return. Aniket too got a bad cramp in his leg and was unable to walk. Mangesh told him not to stretch himself and stay fit for Himalaya expedition instead. Thus Aniket and two girls decided to return back. While climbing up, it all went fine. All tired but was excited to do the khechi trek. Next morning after breakfast at 4.00am we started to descend. Mangesh in challenging his own capacity forgot the meeting spot and went far ahead with Anju. We all remaining trekkers gathered at the meeting spot for the lunch waiting for Mangesh and Anju. To our distress, we kept all our lunch packets in Mangesh’s bag. Being forest area we got worried when we waited for them for more than 2hrs. It was then decided that me along with Rupali, her friend Ashwinikumar and Watadya should move ahead, and MB, Ameya and Sudeep will go inside the forest to search them both. Me, Rupali & Ashwinikumar followed watadya walking slow and marked every junction for MB, Ameya & Sudeep’s convenience. Watadya shared his apple with us, each of us getting one piece. Late at night when we reached the village we saw Mangesh & Anju waiting for us with our lunch pack. We had our lunch pack @ around 8.00pm as dinner. There was a little anger roar, little burst, but all well that’s ends well. And what we say, “Treks me aaise chooti chooti bate hoti rahati hey!” (such small things do happens in treks). For me I never thought I can do such khechi trek only on a single price of apple. When you look at some person as perfectionist, little mistakes do count. Mangesh too realised his mistake and shared a big amras can he kept especially for us. So it was all-together Happy ending.

Lobhi – Lonawala Bhimashankar: It’s called trekkers trek. I once told Mangesh my desire to do this trek and without thinking he said, "kar ki mag" (Go, do it!). I asked him, mala jamel ka? (Will I be able to do it?) And he said, "Jamel ki" (why not, sure you can do it). This attitude I have never seen in any other trekker. Just for Mangesh I tried Lobhi this year (2010). But due to my bad knee I was not able to finish it till the end. Moreover, with lots of heavy rains even others were not able to cross the river and had to return half way. I once again will do this khechi trek and once finished wanna dedicate it to Mangesh.

Few good and few bad memories of Mangesh, I will always cherish throughout my life. I won’t say I miss him; he is always with us in our every treks. I thank him to be there and for encouraging me to do all impossible.

-Sharvani Khare

19th October 2010

My new source of money!

I recently received a letter saying I have won $ 100 million in the lucky draw from some company in America. I never was aware that I am so much known personality in USA that some company wants to share some 40% if I help them transfer $ 100 million to my account for others to use it. I know you are thinking that it’s all fake letters and that its a bull shit and a big fraud. You certainly will think so as I am the one who got selected for the award and not YOU!

And if I ever got caught, I will have to spend my entire life in Jail. That’s it! But why to refuse such a big amount for the probability of ‘If I ever get caught!’ It’s a big, BIG amount after all. I can then be owner of company I am currently working for. Or probably I can buy a small island and spent my whole life in luxury and fishing. Being in India I can bribe many political parties and then stand for election myself. I have lot many chances to win the elections and be Prime Minister Sharvani Khare. Sound so kool.

I am planning to build a bigger house than Mittal. My new bungalow photos will be used as fwd mail chain. Can you guess whose house is this? This luxury bungalow is of Sharvani Khare, the richest person in India. Probably even Opera will call me to express my feelings when I was declared winner. Or probably to share my emotions with others where I will thank my parents, friends and American company for supporting me to be extremely rich. I hope my school teachers who used to think I can do nothing good watch the opera show and see themselves how rich and successful I am today.

I will be then listed with those people who were failure as a child and then turned out to be big successor in life. Amitabh Bachchan, Lucille Ball, Michael Jordan and Sharvani Khare – Failure as a child turned out to be most successful people on the earth.