Happy Birthday... My Love

No one knows you quite like me,

The world sees what they choose to see.

Harsh, rude, a little tough,

Yet I know a heart that's soft enough.

You care in ways words cannot say,

Giving, helping, come what may.

Love isn’t spoken, yet always there,

Shown in moments, in the way you care.

Through storms and trials, we stood tall,

Hand in hand, we’ve faced it all.

Sometimes I wonder how and why,

But deep inside, we need no reply.

Some husbands yell, some husbands roar,

In our tale, that’s my chore!

You stay calm, composed, and wise,

Yet your temper—I’ve seen it rise!

“Opposites attract,” they say, so true,

I laugh, I chatter—nothing new.

You, reserved, with words so few,

Talking only when you need to.

A smile for a photo? Oh, what a task!

A thousand clicks, yet none you grasp.

I giggle, I pose, while you stand still,

But I love you, stubborn or chill!

We’re opposites, yet blend just right,

Like day and night, like dark and light.

Ishannk and I send love your way,

Wishing you joy on your special day!

Stay blessed, stay strong, stay just the same,

For in our world, you light the flame.

2 March 2025 – 7 March 2025

Old is Gold – A Step Back to Traditional Cookware

In today’s fast-paced lifestyle, convenience and speed are given top priority. This is why non-stick and aluminium cookware have become common in most kitchens. However, while these options may seem convenient, their long-term effects must be considered. I realized this and finally decided – to return to traditional cookware!

I recently removed all non-stick pans and aluminium utensils from my kitchen and replaced them with cast iron cookware. Initially, it was a bit challenging, but as I started using them regularly, I began to understand their benefits.

Adopting Traditional Cooking Habits - There are certain traditional habits that we inherit, and one such habit I have adopted is leaving the ladle in the curry after tempering. This allows some natural iron to seep into the food, making it healthier.

However, I used to rely on aluminium kadais for making dishes like upma and sheera, non-stick cookware for frying bhajis / sabjis, and a non-stick pan for making rotis—except for bhakris, which were always made on an iron griddle. This inconsistency had been bothering me for a while. Finally, my sister and I went shopping and bought cast iron cookware.

Initial Challenges and Solutions -

Bringing iron cookware from the market and simply washing it once before use is not enough. After washing and drying, you need to apply oil (sesame or coconut) all over it and let it sit for about half an hour. Then, wipe It clean with a cloth, wash it again thoroughly, and only then is it ready for use. If this process is not followed, food like fritters may turn black.

For the first couple of days, I faced some difficulties. Cooking dinner while also helping my child with studies meant occasional distractions. As the saying goes, “नजर हटी दुर्घटना घटी - A moment’s distraction can lead to an accident”, and sure enough, my bhajis stuck to the pan. But I told myself, “Vegetables little burned, turn out crisp and delicious!” I tried different techniques to season the pan properly. The stubbornly stuck bhajis finally came off after soaking the pan, boiling that water, and scrubbing it gently.

Another challenge with cast iron cookware is cleaning and maintenance. These utensils need to be washed and dried immediately to prevent rusting. I found a solution—I soak them in soapy water, and my house help washes and dries them right away. If you have someone who can handle this task efficiently, switching to cast iron cookware becomes much easier.

Next Step – Brass Cookware and storage containers

Now that I have started using cast iron cookware, my next goal is to introduce brass utensils into my kitchen. I already have a copper water pot and a silver glasses, but I also wish to replace my stainless steel plates, bowls, and glasses with brass ones. 

Also planning to replace my plastic storage containers with brass containers. It will take time though.

Brass utensils have a unique charm—both in looks and functionality!

The Journey from “Non-Stick” to “Sustainable”

Non-stick cookware offers temporary convenience, but choosing sustainable alternatives is crucial for long-term health and environmental well-being. Using traditional materials like iron, copper, and brass is not just about returning to old ways but making a conscious shift toward sustainable and healthy living.

You Can Make the Change Too!

If you are thinking of eliminating non-stick and aluminium cookware from your kitchen, start with a cast iron kadai. It may take some time to get used to it, and food may stick initially, but over time, you will adapt, and the benefits will become evident.

Market - Demand snd supply. I am sure, if demand increases, we will have 'Kalai wala' in every nook n corner

“Old is Gold” is not just a saying—it is the best choice for a healthier life!

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Photo from google.

The Evolution of School Bags: From Balance to Burden

That horizontal school bag was such a classic! It was simple, sturdy, and well-balanced—something today’s bulky backpacks often lack. There was a certain charm in the way everything fit perfectly: textbooks at the back, notebooks neatly divided, and those little front pockets that held small but essential treasures.

Carrying tiffin in the same bag was just normal back then; separate lunch bags were rare. And yes, schools in the ’90s usually had just one lunch break, so there wasn’t much need for extra storage. Those days, functionality mattered more than fancy designs.

Do you remember how these bags had those thick, almost unbreakable zippers? And sometimes, if the bag got too heavy, the strap would dig into the shoulder, leaving red marks by the time we reached home. But still, that bag lasted years!

Then came the vertical school bags, and honestly, they never felt as balanced as the 

old horizontal ones. All the weight gets concentrated in the center, making it harder to carry. The upper part near the shoulders usually stays empty, which means all the strain falls on the lower back. No wonder kids today are constantly complaining about back pain and feeling frustrated with the book load! These vertical bags just stack everything on top of each other, turning them into a heavy, sagging burden. Maybe that’s why so many kids now drag their bags instead of carrying them!

Those wheeled school bags seem to be designed for kids who never have to worry about bumpy roads, muddy paths, or even stairs. And yes, while many schools now have lifts, they’re still mostly reserved for teachers and staff. Back in our childhood, even teachers used to take the stairs—no complaints, no shortcuts. Maybe that’s why they still seem so fit and active today!

In those rich, air-conditioned schools where kids roll their bags effortlessly and take lifts instead of stairs, they’re completely missing out on the natural workout we had every day. Now, since they aren’t burning calories the old-fashioned way, they’ll have to go to the gym and jump up and down on a tire just to make up for it. Funny how times have changed—what was once a daily struggle for us is now considered a fitness routine!

The kids aren't to blame—it's really the design and trends of school bags that need to be reconsidered. The focus on style over practicality often leads to uncomfortable and inefficient bags. 

What’s needed is a return to well-thought-out designs that prioritize balance and comfort over aesthetics. It’s not just about looking cool—it’s about making sure kids are carrying their books in a way that’s healthy and sustainable for their bodies.

Curly tales 5

Curly tales 5 - Perfect hair day or wash day vs day 4/5

Curly girls know that wash day is a Perfect Hair Day. But what about other days. Its not possible to wash 2-3 times a week. So here are my tips..

Oil and Water Mix: Keeping curls hydrated and nourished throughout the week can definitely make a huge difference. Adding a bit of oil mixed with water is a fantastic way to refresh curls and keep frizz at bay. Curly hair rarely looks oily because it tends to absorb oils deeply, leaving your curls nourished and shiny without appearing greasy.

Aloe Vera Gel and Water Mix: Mix 2-3 tablespoons of fresh aloe vera gel with water in a spray bottle. Shake well and spray lightly on your curls. Aloe vera hydrates, reduces frizz, and helps redefine curls naturally.

Pair Aloe Vera Gel with Oil and water method for added moisture and shine. Your curls will thank you!

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Disclaimer: All photos are from January 2025.

Black t-shirt photo: Taken on the morning of 25th January 2025, just after hair wash.

Black dress photo: Taken on the evening of 25th January 2025.

White and blue dress photo: Taken on 17th January 2025, 5-6 days after hair wash.

(Some assumed the black t-shirt photo was old one, hence this disclaimer)

Curly tales 4 – Curls and oxidised jewelry

There come time when you want to go wild, set yourself free, and dance with the tune. This Ganesh festival was my days of setting myself free. From looking nice to dancing wild and going crazy with the rhyme, I did it all.

Today, I am back to my normal self. Back with curls and oxidised jewelry.

Curly Tales 3 - Hair cut and hair accessories

All those who struggle with curls remember your hair journey is a marathon, not a sprint. Here is my story.

As a child, I always had short hair, so a school hairband or two small ponies or Rasana hairstyle looked cute and perfect.

Then the never ending journey of long hair, maintaining those curly long hair, getting perfect hair cut and selecting perfect hair accessories started. When you have curls you can’t wear those fancy accessories with beads or diamonds. They just get stuck in your hair and you have to brutally pull it off breaking your hair and literally making you cry. Even a diamond ring is a big no no for curls. With such ring a simple task of tying hair into a bun can be a nightmare. That diamond prong do get stuck and tangled in curls, breaking them up or the hair.

There is no perfect hair accessories for our curls. I have tried many such hair accessories from simple clutches, hair clips, hair pins, barrettes, scrunches. Nothing work best for curls. They just break after one or two use or their teeth falls down one by one. And it has nothing to do with the quality. I have purchased the cheapest to costliest clutches from train to imported set from Japan. I even got one Korean set of hair accessories. It broke on day one and then I realised that Koreans and Japanese have soft, straight and silky hair, they do not understand curls. Point is it will last for a month if you are lucky. Be it plastic, metal or acrylic, maximum life of all these accessories in curly hair is one month. They just get suffocated in curls, it’s volume and finally die in suffocation. The only long lasting hair accessories is the hairbands. That black sling hair band. सस्ता, मजबूत और टिकाऊ. So all curly girls, don’t waste your time and money buying expensive hair accessories. Just get those sling hair band in all colors and your job is done.

Another struggle is to get a perfect hair cut. No hair salon, hairdresser or beautician understand curly hair. They will wet your hair making them look like straight hair, Comb with the closely spaced comb and then cut it in straight line. Then they will blow dry your hair to style them up. All such process is wrong. Curly hair tend to bounce up once dried. If you cut then evenly when they are wet they will end up becoming uneven once dried. One need to cut curly hair when they are left natural. That is the only way one can end up having them in straight line. Funny but true. For many years I did cut my hair again after getting a nice haircut from a hairdresser as they always looked uneven at the end. Cut them when they are dry and bouncing.

Another part is hair styling. All those hair styling with blow hair dry is of no use. Inward turn and outward turn at the bottom are not real for curls. We got springs, so no matter how much you make them wet and pull them down straight and try to make an inward turn, they with bounce up like Maggie noodles one they are dry. 

I have gradually learned to just flip my hair like I just don’t care. To loose my bangs and let the wind do the rest. I have finally learned to  enjoy and embrace my curly.

Curly tales 2 - Curls and color.

I always wanted to color my hair. Not that I was desperate, but few colors I really love like burgundy, peacock, and purple. I don’t know if I got guts to color my hair in peacock or purple. But I finally settled with brown + burgundy.

When in college, I preferred to spend more money on treks than beauty. I thought, when I saw my 1st grey hair, that time I would have my hair colored. Many of my senior colleagues in their late 20s or early 30s had that salt and pepper look. So my plan was ready. But with curls, to get that salt and pepper look is a long wait. The reason, you need to oil your hair daily. I remember looking like a female version of Satya Sai Baba if I skipped oiling my hair. Thus, my 30s went with jet black color. 

Finally, last year, when I was already 40+ and still with jet black hair, I finally collected my guts. We were planning my son’s thread ceremony. Already in my 40s, I thought it was the best time for some mischief. If not now, then when ?

I got a few strikes of brown and burgundy and two strikes of red in front. But the problem was, since original color is bark black, red was never visible. The lady suggested that I go for more strong colors. Maybe next time, when I will try purple or peacock. (In my 50s may be). 

My curls look best after wash. But there were no products available in the market to maintain those curls. Our mentality was set - लंबे, काले, घने and straight  बाल. Then finally someone thought of curly girls and one product was launched. And today, market is flooded with curly girl products like Dove, Manetain, Ashba, Curlvana, Curlup, Fix my curls and many more. What to choose and how to use is now a topic of discussion with a new style statement CGM - Curly Girl Method. 

Till the time I again gather my guts to do some mischief, let me enjoy being CG with my burgundy and brown (now faded). What shlould i try? DM me for selecting the color peacock or purple or same old accepted one of burgundy + brown. 

Happy to be CG.

Curly tales 1 - Tale of my curls

Finally! My hair are back to my natural curls. In the 1st week of March this year, I got my hair straightened and immediately regretted it for two reasons. First, When you have two boys at home believe me it just went unnoticed. And second I faced a bad hair fall. Never in my life I am going to do it again. It took me 5-6 weeks to get me hair back to normal.

First time I straightened my hair was in 2008. I still remember after getting my hair done I was traveling to Pune with my friends. With lot of excitement I flaunted my hair asking, “कसे दिसत आहेत”. She replied in cold face and equally cold voice, “नक्की काय दाखवते आहेस”. I told her about my hair straightening treatment and she replied, “काहीही समजत नाही आहे. कुत्र्याची शेपूट आहेत तुझे केस. खाली कितीही वजन बांधा किंवा इस्त्री करा, वजन काढालं की ते spring सारखे वरच चढणार”. And my money went down the drain. (How rude!).

Then I did this stupidity again this year. I mean I always wanted that silky, straight hair. I remember once I was in parlour and girl sitting next to me had that silky, straight hair. I was staring at her hair when she turned to me and asked, “Are these your natural hair or you have curled it”. I told her this Maggie noodles are my natural hair and she said, “I will pay anything to get those curls”. This is exactly what I am thinking about your hair, I told her. If I ever went to parlour to make my hair more curly, I will be looking like an African.

One such incident I remember. I was traveling by train to Thane. Being just one stop, I was at the door. Suddenly I realised a sharp wheapon on my neck. After getting down, I realised that my gold chain has been stolen. I was devastated but still managed to go to class. My friend sitting behind me asked, 'what is this gold hanging in your hair'. That thief was able to cut my chain but was unable to pull it through my hair. My cruel friend said, “How was he able to reach till your neck at first place”. How rude again.

All my Japanese friends and colleagues have always appreciated my big eyes and curly hair. पिकत तिथे विकत नाही हेच खरं.

I always wonder how easily the silky hair can be combed. I mean, it’s a matter of few minutes for them. I whereas has to make four sections to get my tangled hair combed. And still they look bouncy, curly. As my mother-in-law once said, “तुझं बरं आहे ना, केस विंचरले काय अणि नाही विंचरले काय सारखेच दिसतात”. I take it as a compliment now as I have started loving my curls. Love to be a CG (Curly girl). I think I look much better with these curls.

I am a fighter

Stumblimg and falling, tripping and trembling

Faltering all the way but not stopping

Wishing it would end someday

I get back with my life. 

Fighting my emotions

Fighting my thoughts

Hoping one day I will be strong

I get back to my life.

Why me ? Has an answer

Because I am a fighter

Wishing my fight will end with a positive note

I get back with my life.

To be strong is only option I have

But to fall again and again, yet to be strong is backbreaking

Hoping my stress will end someday

I get back with my life.

To get depressed and torn apart

To fight with yourself and your thoughts

Wishing my prayers will be heard someday

I get back with my life.

To fall and to rise, to fall again in life

I have learned to smile for no mistake of mine

Hoping all my pain will go away someday

I get back with my life.

15 - October - 2021